To recover is to bravely leave the safe-but-stifling for the freeing-but-frightening, and find yourself

The final heart shard was shaped like a pair of fluttering wings. 

Wings for the people who had spent a comfortable time inside the story to leave the nest with…

Wings for the prince to return to himself with.

Princess Tutu Akt 25

Breaking free from a narrative imposed on you (although not quite so literally as the literary characters turned real, but still bound by a dead author hellbent on a tragic ending, as in Princess Tutu), by others, or eventually your own mind, in their absence… I think the relief is the same, when you finally return to yourself.

When unhealthy manners of thinking become familiar, although they’re restricting, they become difficult to break out of, so recovering seems frightening—it’s undeniably difficult, at times, and painful—but it’s freeing to finally leave the nest.

Our mermaid memories

When I was very young, I really loved Ariel (The Little Mermaid), I liked to think I was a mermaid, just in human form, so I learned to surface upwards—with my head down, to keep my nose clear of water—and then swing my hair back! I made a friend at the pool once, doing that, she said I looked like a mermaid!

We swam into the bend under the pool slide, where it echoed, and the water came up (and at night, the lights under the pool made it glow!), pretending we were mermaids and it was our secret grotto!

While I swam on my own in the pool, there were some other adventures, like this one time a bunch of boys and girls banded into teams to compete against each other. That day was a bit strange, because the girl’s team had a girl wearing the same not-quite-a-swimsuit as I was and her name was the same as mine! So I opted to go by another name (I picked the name of a mythological figure I read about while researching mermaids). The boys were led by this blond boy who kind of reminded me of a parrot, he had a name like Collin or Conner or something, I don’t even know if the girl’s team or the boy’s team won in the end…

I was content to keep these mermaid memories close to my heart, as mementos of a time I could more easily relate to my peers, before my awkward “strangeness” as an autistic person meant I was ignored by my peers and could no longer make new, close friends…

Without expcting it, I received a new memory! After a sad prayer where I asked to not be autistic anymore, despite the rare skills and blessings that came with the difficulties (especially after reading autistic adults rarely make friends after leaving school and finding it sadly true past my first year of college), towards the end of my internship, I made a friend!!

A friend with so much in common, who I could talk, walk, and eat with everyday, it made work feel so light and fun, it almost felt like cheating (is it really working if I have someone I can look forward to spending time with too?!), but I guess that’s what others have and take for granted!

Now, my new friend said to me that when she was little, she’d go to the water and ask if there were any mermaids out there, wanting one to be her friend…

Mermaid Prince (Ningyo Ouji) by Ozaki Kaori

Today, I read a three-chapter manga part of a collection of short stories/one-shots, called Mermaid Prince (note: this is not an error in translation, he is not a merman [except in the girl’s imagination in one shot], but simply a human boy who loves mermaids) and the story was very tender and unique—the story was set in Okinawa (the girl speaks in the dialect and the boy’s brother-in-law is also Okinawan!), love story was light and believable for the kids’ ages and it was just as much about them struggling with their changing home situations and family troubles, with a quest for a wish-granting, monstrous-looking mermaid as catalyst for change.

It’s a sweet and unique story, the one fantastic element surrounded by so much grounding itin reality, I had no idea how it would turn out for them (will the kids survive, will they find her, does she exist, is she good, evil, or is she so different that our concepts of good and evil not apply to her at all?).

The art is clean, simple, but beautifully evocative, that I can easily be swept up in the emotions of the story, I wanted to save how inspired I felt to draw seeing this artwork!!

Charities to save the Amazon!

The Amazon rainforest has been burning for three weeks, due to excessive logging even in areas previously kept protected, due to the greed of Brazil’s president.

The Amazon is Earth’s ‘lung,’ it provides us with 20% of our oxygen. The fire is so bad, the damage can be seen from space.

Here are charities you can donate to to help:

Correction: For stopping the deforestation and aiding recovery of the forest, the indigenous movements are best and donating to them make the most direct impact! https://fundopodaali.org.br (Brazil only) https://coiab.org.br

http://apib.info

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These other charities have a more limited area of influence and cannot do as much as the above charities in this situation:

Amazon Conservation Association

Amazon Conservation Team

Amazon Watch

Rainforest Foundation US

Rainforest Trust

Rainforest Action Network

If you do not have the money, apps like Ecosia can also help the environment (you use it in place of Google, for every 45 searches you do, Ecosia will plant one tree).

Morocco, after ten years

(Photograph of bread, pastries, and cakes in a Moroccan boulangerie, not the one I went to, but similar!)

My aunt’s home in Morocco, open windows where sparrows flew in during the day to hop actoss the kitchen floor, pecking up bread crumbs to fly off with, and a cool breeze blew in during the night.

Down past the stairs with the timed lights that go off if you don’t race to the next switch, the building opens up to a cobblestone street, street vendors (one with a donkey!), a motorcyclist next door who tends to a sleepy, sweet kitten who sleeps under his motorcycle. He sets something out for it every day and strokes it under its tiny chin with a finger.

A short walk in the opposite direction is the bathhouse, we go with buckets filled with the needed amenities (shampoo, brushes, Moroccan soap, rough-textured bath mittens, towels and a change of clothes). On the way to the baths, I comment that the clouds look heavy with rain, my aunt laughs, but we’re rushing back home as it falls gently down afterwards.

(It’s beautiful and soft and comforting after waking up in tears.)

There’s a dentist and a salon, a boulangerie we get fresh bread from every day (the sweet pastries seem to draw in bees), but it’s a very long walk to the supermarket!

On the way, there are brightly coloured plastic chairs and other simple wares being sold along the road. Coin-operated kiddy rides, sun-bleached and aged, but functioning (at least some of them!).

Tamaris! The sea is a deep blue expanse that mirrors the sky, the line of the horizon is softened, nearly erased, but marked by a few jutting, grey rocks in the distance. A single gull lands in the center and seems to join the sea and sky.

Assuming all foreigners speak French, a man calls out to me, saying something about the sea, “La mer, la mer!”

A street vendor sold toys; a apinning, light-up toy that whirled into the night sky and softly returned, was lovely to watch, but what we bought were two little battery-powered, plastic lamps, because it’s more convenient, when you have to share sleeping space with several of your aunts and little cousins.

But beaches are cold and windy, so my brother wrapped up in my pink scarf on the way back, while I kept the pink wrap I used as an underscarf and a hoodie to cover my hair.

Inside a beach-side cafe, we drank fruit juice to the distant sound of a sports match on TV, I forget what we ate, but we warmed up enough that the freezer full of ice cream (advertised with faded, old posters) now looked appealing.